And it finally hits me…

17 Apr

So…  I was reading a fellow blogger’s post the other day, and was hit upside the head with the realization that…



At some point throughout my 30+ years of bowling, I had forgotten that bowling is supposed to be fun. 

Now please understand, it wasn’t always that way for me…

My first experience with bowling was when I was 9.  My parents signed me up for junior league. I averaged about 60 that year. And it was Fun! I didn’t care how many gutters I threw, or how many spares I missed.  I was with my friends, and we were having a blast.  My team made it to the rolloffs that first year…. and I killed it!  I bowled a 120 game that won my team the championship, and boy was I pumped!  During the banquet, my coach pointed out to everyone how I had bowled so well, and my head swelled with pride as I strutted on up to get my trophy. 

That exciting day was the start of my obsession with bowling.  You see, from that day on I wanted to be a GOOD bowler.  I got my own ball, and begged Mom for my own shoes (“not until your feet stop growing” she would say).  At home, I would grab anything that rolled to practice my four step approach, and on league day, I would hang on every word my coach would say to me. My mom sewed all my award patches on my bowling shirt (three strikes in a row, three splits in a row, 50 pins over average, etc. etc.) and I wore it proudly.  Bowling was something I wanted to do all the time. It soon would become fun for reasons other than hanging out with friends.  It was fun because it was challenging, and I have always been up for a good challenge.

Fast forward 30 years…. I’m still obsessed with bowling: competing in tournaments (some of them pretty competitive), and bowling twice a week in leagues. I read about it and watch it on TV, and talk tirelessly about it with other bowlers.  I buy a new ball every year, and set new goals for myself all the time. I love to bowl with people who are better than I, so that I can learn from them, whereby improving my own average. I eat, drink and sleep bowling.  At this point it’s still very fun – but mainly because I am seeing my average continue to rise. And because I have reached my goal of shooting a 700 series (which I have done multiple times – woohoo!), and my goal of bowling a 300 game (the first female in my bowling center to have done so).  It’s fun because I am doing well and I live for competition.  The more competitive I become, and the more I improve, the more focused I am on winning, or bettering myself, and not on the social part of it.

Fast forward 1 more year….Suddenly bowling is one of the last things on my mind. What? Anyone who knows me well would never believe it.  What has happened?? No longer is bowling an obsession… no longer do I think about it 24/7… no longer do I wait impatiently for my next bowling night, tournament or practice session….

……No longer am I a teacher/stay-at-home-mom with endless amounts of time on my hands….  I have taken a job that has the exact opposite hours of a teacher… late nights, early mornings, weekends… I am on my feet 8 hours a day, and have an hour commute to work each day.  How can I possibly think about bowling?  For the first time since I can remember, bowling has taken a back seat.  I still bowl in a league twice a week… but because the focus is no longer there, and my endless days of practicing are long gone, I am watching my average decline.  For someone as competitive as I, it’s been a depressing bowling season.  Many nights I come home complaining that I should just quit. It’s not fun if I am not bowling well. My husband tries to be supportive, advising me to not take it so seriously, and maybe I would begin to bowl better, or at least not come home so miserable.

His advice has fallen on deaf ears…  until just recently, cuz just recently  I read the blog “Too Much Fun Had by Women Bowlers”.  It was like being hit over the head – Really?  Bowling can be fun without hitting 200 every game? I have read that blog a couple of times now, and I’m slowly beginning to convince myself that I shouldn’t quit a game that I have enjoyed for- EVER.  I may even have to admit that my husband could be right…

It’s hard – yes.   When I miss a spare, or fail to shoot a decent 3 game series, a little part of me wants to pout and give up, but I’m trying…. I’m trying to shrug it off, and go back to my team of very fun girls…. and focus on what my bowling league nights can really be about. 


Carefree.   Kidfree    Workfree.


So thank you Terri.  I am going to take the summer off for the first time in years, and come back next year to have fun.  I’m excited to have a different focus on bowling… it’ll be a new challenge for me, but one that I am ready to accept.

Bring It On!


Posted by on April 17, 2011 in Bowling


4 responses to “And it finally hits me…

  1. Jules

    April 17, 2011 at 2:42 am

    Sorry to hear bowling hasn’t been good for you lately. I hope the time off helps you. I think it IS important to still have fun with your passion, no matter how competitive you are. Maybe we can get the husbands together and go bowling a few times over the summer. We’re fun people, and though I’m competitive like you, I’m not competitive in bowling so you wouldn’t have to think so much about winning! I think my average is probably something like 105. 🙂

  2. territerri

    April 18, 2011 at 12:44 am

    I’m so glad that my post reminded you that bowling can be fun too. But I do my share of pouting over bad games, missed strikes, etc. I only started bowling about 3 years ago, so I am still very much in the learning stages. Sometimes I forgot what a process it is and I want improvement to come right NOW. This summer I’ll be bowling on a sport shot, so I’ll be the one having to remind myself that it’s supposed to be FUN. All those oil patterns! I have such a hard time figuring out how to compensate for the oil!

    • shadowrun300

      April 18, 2011 at 1:32 pm

      I have bowled on the sports shot for quite a few summers. They are definitely a challenge – forcing you to be consistent with your shot and making your spares. Again, I like the challenge and learned a lot from watching and listening to the other bowlers. I will miss it this summer, but I think the break will be healthy. Have you ever thought about bowling in the Queen’s Tournament? It’s a scratch tournament with a lot of great women bowlers, including pros. It’s a great experience if you ever get the chance.

  3. Mike

    May 8, 2011 at 4:51 pm

    I always have fun bowling, but I tend to drink a lot of beer as well. Beer makes anything more fun! 😉


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