Oy Vey

01 Mar


I just received an email from my daughter’s classmate’s mom.  It’s our turn to donate a quilt for the Ladies Sodality Quilt Bingo being held in March.

There are 5 families in our group who rotate the responsibility of coming up with a quilt to donate.  The rest of us just write a check to them for $35.  I love ‘just writing a check’.  I loathe trying to find a quilt – a handmade, reasonably priced, decent looking quilt.

I’ve got my fingers crossed that it’s not my turn, but I have a feeling it’s my turn.

Double oy vey.

I’ve come to the point in my life when I feel like I’ve put my time in, and now it’s time to be selfish.  (Abby, close your ears.  Terri – you too! I don’t want to be swaying you over to the dark side.)

I did the stay-at-home mom stuff for 4 kids.  I was someone’s room mother every year while the kids were in school.  I attended a great many field trips to the Science Center, the Arch, the City Museum,  the Zoo, the Science Center, the Arch, the City Museum, the Zoo, the Science Center…. you get the idea.. four kids, remember!

I was a member of the PTA for many years before becoming president of it.  I organized the school’s Field Day program 4 years in a row.  I was the Boy Scout leader for 1.5 years (I quit early on that.  I felt like a babysitter for all these boys and their siblings. And the things I did for them were not appreciated in the least.)

I voluntarily taught religion classes for 6 years to third graders three mornings a week.

I manned many a concession stand.  I waitressed many a chicken dinner. I called many a bingo cards.

I did my part!

When do I get to quit?

Well, with a town of 600 people, nobody really gets to quit.  And if we do, hoo boy!, are we the talk of the town.

So we’ve succumbed to that.  We’re the talk of the town. And we don’t really care.

We know that we’re not going to be here much longer, so we’ve distanced ourselves from the town.  It’s one of the reasons I don’t mind my hour long commute into work.  It gets me away from this small town that has nothing better to do than keep holding fund raisers.

Most people here LIKE that stuff.  Me?  I like the stuff they aren’t doing. I like action!  Variety!  Culture!

But what I’m doing, is calling a bunch of grandmas, trying to find one that still quilts, and then asking her to sell me one.  Then I’m going to call everyone in my group and try to get them to send me their portion of it so I don’t get stuck with the bill.

Oy.   Vey.


Posted by on March 1, 2012 in Everyday Living, Family


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15 responses to “Oy Vey

  1. towardshealthylife

    March 1, 2012 at 5:53 am

    I just don’t understand why they don’t donate the checks instead of the quilt that has been bought with the checks?? Sorry I have never been a community person. I have never been the one who does things because everybody does…not a group person either so these kind of charity are not my thing. You have every right to do whatever you wanna do, they can keep talking about you while you have all the fun 🙂

  2. shadowrun300

    March 1, 2012 at 11:38 am

    Exactly! Hubby and I are always saying that the reason they talk is because they are jealous that we have the guts to actually so NO. I’ll do the quilt thing, but we have not worked a dinner or bingo in many years, and have no plans to in the future. We drive by on our motorcycles and honk and wave, and then leave them in our dust! 🙂

  3. agg79

    March 1, 2012 at 11:55 am

    Boy, you really do live in a Stepford community, don’t you? Sometimes, it seems that those volunteer efforts/groups are never ending. As soon as you finish one charity or fundraiser, the next one starts up. And heaven forbid if you want to skip it. We’ve done the volunteer shtick for years. Boy Scouts, Church, band fundraisers, nacho sales at the school, choir trips, etc. At some point, you have to set aside time for yourself and your family. That’s the only way to maintain your sanity. My wife has done the quilt raffle thing once, but the quilt was usually done by a local quilter who was willing to give up one of their handiwork.

    • shadowrun300

      March 2, 2012 at 1:49 am

      It is definitely never ending around here. It’s always the same businesses hit up for donations, and the same people attending the events. Most people get a kick out of it… I just don’t see the benefit of it. So to speak. 🙂

  4. Mike

    March 1, 2012 at 2:40 pm

    I became exhausted just reading this. I chuckle at the “stay-at-home-mom” comment, as what you posted sounds like working two or three full-time jobs at a time… and rarely being home. I wonder if I’m gonna have to do all that stuff when we have kids. *shudder*

    • shadowrun300

      March 2, 2012 at 1:44 am

      Yeah – now that I think about it – “stay-at-home” is not quite accurate. As far as your own kids, here’s my advice. If you like doing it, do it! But if you don’t, JUST SAY NO. 🙂

  5. meleah rebeccah

    March 1, 2012 at 9:20 pm

    “I love ‘just writing a check’”

    I second that!

    And yanno what – you are allowed to be selfish! It’s good for the soul.

    • shadowrun300

      March 2, 2012 at 1:39 am

      So true! My husband and I would much rather write a check than go wait tables or clean chickens for a chicken dinner.

  6. abby

    March 2, 2012 at 12:06 am

    Go find a quilt for quilt bingo? I’ve done a lot of volunteering, organizing, field tripping, party momming, blah blah blah-ing, but I’ve NEVER donated a bingo quilt! You so deserve your selfish time!

    • shadowrun300

      March 2, 2012 at 1:38 am

      I know, right? And every single small town and church around here has a quilt bingo once or twice a year. My mom loves them and has won quite a few quilts. They just sit in pillowcases in the basement of my husband’s old office. Hmmm… wonder if I can buy one off her? That would be EASY!! Surely she would do that for her daughter… 🙂

  7. territerri

    March 2, 2012 at 2:16 am

    I’ll bet Jules could make you a funky kind of quilt with that sewing machine of hers!

    Believe me, I know where you’re coming from. I volunteered, went on field trips, led a girl scout troop, was the room mother…

    There comes a time when enough is enough and it’s someone else’s turn… someone with little kids… someone who hasn’t lost steam yet. You deserve to be selfish.

    • shadowrun300

      March 2, 2012 at 2:31 am

      Yes – someone with young kids… young kids usually have young, energetic, excited, naive moms. lol They’ll figure it out soon enough.
      I plan to be selfish in this aspect, because my job is 40 hours of being the opposite of selfish. I do anything and everything that’s asked of me. So if I don’t wanna find a quilt, I’m not gonna. So there.
      (Unless Jules really WANTS to make me a quilt….) 🙂

  8. Jules

    March 2, 2012 at 2:31 pm

    lol well….I’ve never made a quilt or blanket of any kind… but I’m happy to make one. Or you could surprise them with a mini-quilt 🙂 I’m going to my mother-in-law’s today and she makes quilts, so maybe I will have her show me a few things. When is your deadline?

    • Jules

      March 2, 2012 at 7:44 pm

      If you really do need one I would be happy to give it a go, just send me a text msg on if you do and the timeline since I’ll be out of town this weekend. 🙂

      • shadowrun300

        March 3, 2012 at 12:12 am

        Awww… that’s sweet of you. But I have a feeling it needs to be turned in pretty quickly here. We usually find one that’s already made. HOWEVER, if you really want to try your hand at it, please feel free! These quilt bingos seem to happen every other weekend, so we’re always in need. There are certain dimensions they require, I believe. I’ll let you know. I may even send you a picture of the one I find, so you can get an idea of what most people donate. Thanks Jules!


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