21 Year Salute

23 Mar

Twenty-one years ago, at the age of 21, I married my best friend, my soul mate, my prince.


Sappy, but true.

I was 18 when we met.  Just a young pup, but already on the rebound of a broken engagement.  He was 23, and the roommate of my good friend’s boyfriend.  She begged for months to get me to go on a double date with him.  I was extremely shy, timid, and self-conscious, but finally agreed.

We spent the evening at a comedy club where I laughed as much at his jokes as I did the comedian’s.  Afterwards, we all headed back to their apartment to play games and talk some more.  At this point I didn’t want the night to end.

I left him my phone number, and prayed that he would call me soon.

Two days later, he did.  And the rest, as they say, is history.

I loved that he was mature, intelligent, and settled in a career, yet fun and funny, caring and giving.  He saw characteristics in me that I didn’t see in myself, and slowly brought some self-confidence into my life. (A trait he probably wishes he could undo at this point!)  I felt worthy around him, I felt cared for, and I felt loved.

I was on cloud nine when he asked me to marry him.  We had talked about it a little before that, and I knew that he wouldn’t have asked until he was absolutely sure we were going to make it.

I’d say 21 years together is “making it”.  It hasn’t all been a walk in the park.  In fact, we went through a pretty tough time a few years back, but our commitment and love for each other got us through.  Now, we’re struggling with guiding our teenagers, caring for ailing parents, working long hours, and starting a new business.  We try to take the time as often as we can to do things together that we both enjoy, so that when we finally make it through these times, and the nest is empty, we still know each other, and still like each other.  We’re making plans for our future, and we’re setting the stage for our next 21 years.

I couldn’t be happier.  I’ve never felt luckier. And I’m proud to say I would do it all over again.

March 23, 1991

March 23, 1991

Hubby and I today


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12 responses to “21 Year Salute

  1. agg79

    March 24, 2012 at 1:29 am

    What a testimonial to true love. Congrats on 21 long years. Of course, you realize that, in Hollywood years, you’d be on your 3rd spouse by now. All too often we read about relationships that fall apart after 5 or 10 years, couples that drift apart, marriages that break up. It is great to hear the stories of those who fell in love from the start and made it last. Seems like you two were made for each other, partners in life. My wife and I have been sharing the same path for 31+ years, so I guess that makes us an old married couple. Welcome to the club and kudos for showing everyone how it’s done!

  2. shadowrun300

    March 24, 2012 at 1:57 am

    Why thank you! We’ve been very lucky for sure, but we’ve also worked at it. Congratulations to you as well! You’ve set a great example for you son to follow. 🙂

  3. Abby

    March 24, 2012 at 7:43 pm

    Happy Anniversary! So… are you glad you married him, or what? You’re kind of vague here… Just Kidding!

    21 years is something to celebrate. I’ve noticed that most of my friends I grew up with are on second (or more) marriages. I’m with agg, welcome to the small but special club!

    • shadowrun300

      March 24, 2012 at 11:11 pm

      Yeah… I’m kinda glad… 😉 perhaps I should have gotten sappier so you would be more clear.
      Sometimes it blows my mind to say I’ve been married so long. After all I’m barely over 21 years old!

  4. territerri

    March 25, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    Happy anniversary and congratulations on 21 years! You two sound like a great match and I’m sure your hubby has equally sappy things to say about you!

    • shadowrun300

      March 26, 2012 at 2:24 am

      Thanks Terri! I would hope that he has sappy things to say, but I know I test him quite often. 🙂

  5. Jules

    March 25, 2012 at 8:36 pm

    Happy Anniversary!!!!!!! I love the pictures!!! So pretty!

    • shadowrun300

      March 26, 2012 at 2:26 am

      The pictures crack me up. I always look back and think “what the heck was I thinkin’!” 🙂

  6. towardshealthylife

    March 27, 2012 at 7:07 am

    Thanks for sharing those moments and photos with us! You haven’t changed much by the look on the photos, still the same great smile. Being with someone you truly love is something we should all celebrate, being caught in our lives sometimes makes us forget to apreciate it. 🙂

    • shadowrun300

      March 27, 2012 at 11:00 pm

      You are so right! And we are definitely “caught up in our lives” right now. Writing this post, and looking at old pictures helped bring me back to a more carefree, less stressful, time.

  7. Mike

    April 8, 2012 at 6:28 pm

    Very awesome. 21 years together seems like a rarity anymore in today’s world. Very happy you found one another. Here’s to 21 more!

  8. shadowrun300

    April 8, 2012 at 10:48 pm

    Thanks, Mike!


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