I gotta give a shout out to my hubby today. He has been a total rock star these last few months, in more ways than one.
Not long after we moved into our new house, he took a road trip to Nashville to record some of the songs he’s written. Only his biggest fans received a copy of his album. I stole a few of his lines to title this post and some of my earlier posts. I don’t think he’ll mind. I’m his princess.
It’s not just the music that makes him a rock star, however.
I may have mentioned Amp’s struggles over the past years. He’s never been able to stay organized. The pressures of a deadline actually shut him down. He suffers a bit from anxiety and depression which worsened with each passing year of fighting to pass his classes. For years we’ve struggled with ways of helping him. Crying out to teachers, most of who blamed him. Heck, up until a few years ago, we did too. Since then, we’ve discovered he has EFD – Executive Function Disorder. The more we read, the more we realized people with EFD usually have a high IQ (yep) and usually are depressed because the disorder is keeping them from excelling. (yep) Suddenly we knew he couldn’t HELP the way he was. So my rock star hubby went to battle for him. He’s spent hours and hours explaining Amp’s situation, begging the teachers to at least understand him. Hubby explained that we don’t necessarily want special treatment, but we DID want them to step outside their box, and possibly assess his knowledge in a way that didn’t require a multitude of assignments and deadlines.
Amp’s ACT score of 30 helped our argument. Most teachers were shocked to see how well he did, because his grades weren’t reflecting it. WE were not surprised at all. He blows us away with his knowledge. He always has. So you can imagine how difficult it was for us to see him struggle in school.
Hubby’s dedication is obviously working. Amp’s grades have improved. The teachers are all on his side. Hubby works with Amp to finish assignments – careful not to push him to the shutting down stage – and the teachers have been willing to accept the assignments as he gets them done. Not wanting him to go through his senior year depressed and dejected, my hubby has committed to helping him through. And it’s working! His moods have improved tremendously. He’s happier now and more willing to talk. And with every passing day, his confidence improves
His teachers are going out of their way to help too. Some have stayed over or come in earlier to help him get caught up. One even came in on a Saturday. And all have been surprised at how much he knows. It was assumed he was being disrespectful and disobedient and choosing not to turn in assignments. But WE knew differently. WE knew he WANTED to be able to finish his work and assignments. His issues just weren’t allowing him to. It’s heartwarming to see the teachers come around to his side and realize there is more than one way to teach and assess.
My hubby’s work load has increased tremendously, but Amp is obviously benefiting from his help. We all feel pretty lucky that by working from home, he is able to dedicate so much time to helping Amp.
Amp has been a trooper as well. He’s very appreciative of his dad’s help, and will battle through his assignments. It helps that my hubby fights along side him.
I am beyond proud of the two of them. Amp turned 18 today. He and a bunch of his friends are attending their first major LAN party. An overnight deal being held in the IT School he’ll likely attend in the fall.
He left the house smiling and talkative and very confident. THAT’S the Amp I know and love. I have a good feeling I’ll be seeing more and more of this Amp in the days to come.
And I owe it all to my hubby. My very own rock star. I’m a lucky girl.