Bigger kids, bigger worries

24 Nov

I was all excited about seeing Link this weekend.  I wanted to see with my own eyes that he is still doing okay.

About an hour into his trip, he texted my hubby that his car was making a weird noise.  After going back and forth on what to do, Link decided he would get back on the road, and try to decipher where it was coming from.  Hubby and I waited in worry to hear back from him, both of us immediately feeling guilty that we’d “made” him come to us.

Link, however, thought nothing of it.  “It was just  a weird noise, but it went away after a while.  No trouble at all!”  **sigh**

With one worry down, we began another.  The contacts Link wears to shape his cornea have exceeded their life.  I’d made an appointment for him to see his eye doctor while he was here, so it seemed like perfect timing.  Not.

Because the shape of his cornea has worsened, he wouldn’t be able to just renew his prescription.  The fitting would need to be changed, and because he wouldn’t be here for follow up visits, the doc didn’t feel comfortable ordering them.  On top of that, he advised Link not to wear his contacts at all, since the ill-fittedness was causing surface irritation.  And since he only has one good eye, (the other has so much scarring he has very little sight) the risk is too great.

He obediently left them out, but it was heartbreaking for Hubby and me.  He couldn’t watch videos, he couldn’t play cards, he couldn’t read his comics or play his DS.  All the things he loves, he couldn’t do.

I stayed up later than usual to talk with him, knowing he wouldn’t want to go to bed early.  It was nice though, talking with him, learning more about his friends and his desires.  But we also talked about his worries with his eyes.  It’s a scary thing.  I encouraged him to do his own research, and to hang tough.  He has an appointment Monday morning with a cornea specialist in Ohio, and hopefully that doc can expedite his new contacts.  At this point, I can only sit back and wait.  It’s up to Link now to ask the right questions, and to explain the urgency of getting new contacts quickly.  He can’t function without them, nor can he wear the ones he has now.

While these worries were in the back of my mind all weekend, it wasn’t all sad.  In fact, Saturday, the entire family got together to celebrate Thanksgiving.  Each kid was in charge of a dish, and if I hadn’t opened a can of corn, we’d have had potatoes and pie for dinner.  Nothing made me happier than hearing the laughter and the ribbing between my boys.

More laughter ensued as we squeezed ourselves onto the two pieces of furniture we have.  Instead of football, we watched a League of Legends tournament.  I needed a lot of explanation, but found the announcers of the game made it quite exciting.

We ended the day with the movie Rain Man.  Definitely a must see movie.  Definitely.

Link left “early” Sunday morning, trying to beat the heavy rains that were on the way.  As we watched him back out of our driveway, Hubby and I agreed that next time, we are going to him.  For the next 7 hours, we worried about his safety, but like the good kid he is, he texted us at each stop to let us know he was ok.

When I got the text that he’d arrived home, I breathed a sigh of relief.  One worry down, many to go.


Posted by on November 24, 2014 in Everyday Living, Family, Holidays


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16 responses to “Bigger kids, bigger worries

  1. Abby

    November 24, 2014 at 3:47 am

    Aw, it’s difficult to hear that Link’s eye troubles have worsened, so I can imagine how worrisome it is for you, Mom! I certainly hope the specialist in Ohio brings good news. And so glad he made it back home safely.
    But I’m also glad you had such a nice family weekend, and an early Thanksgiving! Just goes to show that it’s not about the food or the furnishings that make the holidays special!

    Wolfgang is really into League of Legends, so I know a little about it, and it’s impressively huge. Sounds like a great way to spend the day.
    Rain Man, I haven’t watched that in years, but it’s a classic!

    • shadowrun300

      November 25, 2014 at 2:53 am

      We had a great Thanksgiving day, and none of us minded celebrating early. Especially since League of Legends replaced football. (At least as far as the kids were concerned.) And Rain Man was a great choice for that night. None of the kids had seen it before, so it was a must!
      As for Link, the news wasn’t quite what we were hoping. I may provide more details later, but for now he’ll take any blog juju you can send his way!

  2. llcooljoe

    November 24, 2014 at 6:59 am

    Can Link wear glasses? My younger daughter has terrible eyesight and is almost blind in one eye too. Our problem is she won’t wear her glasses or contacts.

    • shadowrun300

      November 25, 2014 at 3:00 am

      Unfortunately glasses won’t help Link. His cornea is misshapen so it’s like he’s looking through a glass bottle or a fun house mirror. He needs the contacts to shape his cornea so that he can see properly. He’d love to be able to just put on some glasses.

      • llcooljoe

        November 30, 2014 at 10:45 pm

        Damn that sucks. Poor Link, it must make him feel very irritated all the time.

  3. agg79

    November 24, 2014 at 3:10 pm

    Just because they are old and out of the nest does not mean you can quit worrying about them. It’s just what you worry about is different now. I hope his appointment with the specialist in Ohio goes well for him and he is able to get the new prescription. And we get the travel worries as well – used to wait by the phone every time junior drove to/from Austin. Of course, he like to leave at 8 or 9 in the evening.

    Good plan to celebrate Thanksgiving early with the family. With all of the people out on the road or out trying to score the best deal on Friday, it is good to enjoy time with family.

    • shadowrun300

      November 25, 2014 at 3:07 am

      Any time my kids get on the road, I worry. So a 7 hour trip was torture for me!
      I’ll be working Thanksgiving Day, and Link couldn’t get off work that week, so an early celebration was called for. What’s funny is that to me, the holiday is over, so it’s weird to hear others still talking about the dinner they’ll have. 🙂

      • agg79

        November 25, 2014 at 2:54 pm

        I hear ya on the road worries. Junior had a tire go bad last one Friday night somewhere out west of Sealy (between no where and lostville). A good 1.5 hour ride just to meet up with him and get him roadworthy. THAT’s why I got AAA roadside service. They sent someone out closer and get him back on the road. In my mind, money well spent.

  4. Stupid Tom (@stupidtom)

    November 24, 2014 at 11:47 pm

    The never stop worrying part wasn’t on the brochure when I signed up to be a parent.

    • shadowrun300

      November 25, 2014 at 3:11 am

      TOM! I saw through Terri that you’re back to posting, so I’ve been visiting. Good to see you again!
      And yeah, this worry thing…. not liking it much.

  5. territerri

    November 25, 2014 at 1:01 pm

    I get it. I always used to think that once my kids graduated high school, I could sit back and relax. Not so. A mom never stops worrying.

    I’m sad to hear that Link’s eye condition has worsened, but what a trooper he seems to be. You raised a strong kid there! I hope the doctor in Ohio can get him fitted for new contacts quickly.

    It brought tears to my eyes to read about your non-traditional Thanksgiving. I always tend to think that everything has to be perfect on the holidays, but I can’t imagine a better gathering than the one you described. Just goes to show, all you really do need is love! The rest takes care of itself.

    • shadowrun300

      November 26, 2014 at 1:59 am

      Link can’t even get in to be fitted for his contacts until Jan. He’ll have to fight with the ones he has until then. It’ll be a tough road, but I’m trying to stay positive for him. Especially since the doctor delivered even worse news during their visit Monday. I may go into more detail in a later post.
      Our Thanksgiving WAS perfect. For us. The day didn’t matter as much as spending time together. And since I’ve been able to spend time with my family, I don’t mind working the actual holiday to allow my coworkers the chance to spend time with their family.

  6. Rock Chef

    November 25, 2014 at 1:56 pm

    Yep, you just seem to trade one set of worries for another! Mrs RC keeps asking if we will ever stop worrying about our babies. I guess the answer is right there in the question. Never!

    We are really looking forward to having Number One Son home for Christmas. He is in his 3rd year, but I have missed him so much this time around, I feel like he is a fresher again! Skype helps but it is not the same as knowing he is in the house.

    Love the sound of the Thanksgiving dinner – what it is all about IMO!

    • shadowrun300

      November 26, 2014 at 2:07 am

      Makes me wonder if my parents still worry about me? If so, I have many years of worrying ahead of me!
      I suppose we should feel grateful our kids WANT to come home to visit. 🙂 We definitely made the most of our time together while he was home. Especially since I’m not sure we’ll get to see him at Christmas.

  7. lottajoy

    November 30, 2014 at 6:23 pm

    My eyes can no longer be made better through prescription changes and the one surgery that is “sometimes” successful is NEVER successful in our area (as said by my opthamologist) It seems my retina is getting air between it and the back part of my eye, causing distortion. He gave me three years left for my sight. I don’t get too miserable over it, knowing there’s always the chance an 18 wheeler has my name on its bumper and I’ll not have to worry about my eyesight. You never know. So I like to lose myself in RAINMAN and do so quite often.

    • shadowrun300

      December 1, 2014 at 3:19 am

      I try not to voice my concerns to Link because I don’t want to add to the worry he has. And I’m hopeful he’s in much better hands than what you have down there. He already has one eye that’s of no use to him. So he has to be extremely careful with this eye until he can get the right treatment. It was definitely helpful to get lost in Rainman.


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